Because relationships are growth and movement toward expansion. Everything is connected and we are all looking for connection. There is an instinctual survival drive to connect with others, to belong, to love and to be loved.
Connections are everywhere. Partners share a kiss with each other. The sun shines to open the flower. The wind catches the sail, the boat glides. We may have the drive to connect and yet that drive doesn't ensure everything will just happen naturally.
Very early, we learn about what relationships look like from our parents. We see their interaction, encode it unconsciously and later play out that conditioning, often unaware of what or why we are doing or how it might affect those around us. Our actions and reactions are conditioned for the kind of connection we got from our parents. Let’s face it, sometimes that interaction was unhealthy. Parents aren’t to blame. We know as adults we have bad days and how that looks. And If we create disconnection with those whom we love—and we’re conscious of it—that we address and repair it. As children, however, those emotional interactions become the sub-routine running in the background until we consciously clean the past and create future relating the way we want it to look for us.