If you’ve been following my blogs lately, we’ve been sharing about eroticism, sexuality and keeping that spark alive. This week, let’s talk about the deeply intimate side of sex, the sacred element of your sex life with your partner. What to learn more about sacred sexuality? Keep reading.
Sex is such a powerful and intimate connection that brings us closer together with our lover, but it can also be a source of tension, disconnection, and even trauma. One way to nurture a healthy and fulfilling sexual relationship is to create a sacred sex container. This is a space and mindset that promotes safety, respect, communication, and intentionality during sexual encounters. Let me share with you what I mean by sacred sex, what a sacred sex container is, why it’s important, and how to create one.
Sex is not just a physical act. It can also be a deeply spiritual and transcendent experience that connects us to our partner, ourselves, and even the divine. This is often referred to as sacred sexuality, an approach to sex that honours the spiritual and energetic aspects of the act.
Sacred sexuality is about connecting with ourselves and our partners on a deep and intimate level. It involves approaching sex with reverence and intentionality rather than as a purely physical act. Through this approach, we can tap into a sense of divine connection and create a space for profound healing, growth, and transformation.
The act of sexual union can be seen as a metaphor for the joining of the masculine and feminine energies within ourselves, as well as the union of our individual consciousness with the universal consciousness. When we engage in sacred sex, we have the opportunity to experience a sense of oneness with our partner and the divine.
This level of intimacy and vulnerability can expand a deep sense of trust and connection with our partner. It can help us feel more seen and understood and can create a sense of safety and security in our relationship. Through sacred sex, we can create a space for deep healing and growth, both individually and as a couple.
OK, so how do we do that, you might ask?
Sacred sex is not just about pleasure or physical release.
To create a sacred sex container, we can set intentions, create a physical space, communicate openly, practice mindfulness, and end with gratitude. By approaching sex in this way, we can create a safe and respectful space for sexual connection that honours both partners’ needs and desires. It can also foster a sense of oneness with our partner and the divine and help us create a deeper and more meaningful connection in our relationship.
What is a sacred sex container?
A sacred sex container is a conscious and intentional approach to the sexual connection that creates a safe and respectful space for all involved. It involves setting clear boundaries, communicating openly and honestly, and approaching sex with a sense of reverence and care. This can include elements like meditation, prayer, setting intentions, or creating a physical space that feels special and intimate.
Why is a sacred sex container important?
Creating a sacred sex container can help foster deeper intimacy, trust, and connection between partners. It can also help reduce the risk of sexual trauma or discomfort by promoting clear communication and consent. A sacred sex container also creates a space where both partners can feel seen, heard, and valued, which can lead to a more fulfilling and enjoyable sexual experience.
How to create a sacred sex container
- Set intentions
Before engaging in sexual activity, take a moment to set intentions. This can be done through meditation, prayer, or simply stating out loud what you hope to experience or share during the encounter. This can help create a sense of purpose and connection between partners and can also help align expectations.
- Create a physical space.
Setting up a physical space that feels special and intimate can help promote a sense of safety and comfort. This can include soft lighting, comfortable bedding, candles, or other items that create a relaxing and romantic atmosphere. Taking care to create a space that feels intentional and special can help both partners feel valued and cared for. Perhaps it becomes a ritual to which the two of you can return again in the future.
- Communicate openly
Communication is key to any healthy relationship, and it’s especially important during sexual encounters. Take the time to discuss boundaries, desires, and expectations before engaging in sexual activity. Make sure that you both feel comfortable asking for what they want or need and that consent is always given and respected.
- Practice mindfulness
During the sexual encounter, try to stay present and focused on the experience. Avoid distractions like phones or TV and instead focus on the sensations and emotions that arise. This can help create a deeper sense of connection between partners and can also enhance the overall experience.
- End with gratitude
After the sexual experience, take a moment to express gratitude to your partner. Take time to enjoy the afterglow and pillow talk. This can be done through words, physical touch, or simply holding space for each other. Gratitude can help promote feelings of connection and appreciation and can also help set the tone for future experiences with your partner.
Creating a sacred sex container is a powerful way to cultivate deeper intimacy, trust, and connection with your partner. If you’re seeking support to create a more intimate and sacred sexual connection with your partner? Consider sex therapy to explore the stories and beliefs you hold about your sexuality and to expand your understanding of what sex and intimacy mean to you. I’m here to support you on your journey towards a deeper and more fulfilling sexual relationship. Reach out today to get started.